I want to start speedrunning but I cant figure out how to get me and my friend in the same game, everything I try doesnt let him join me even though we are using the same game and mod version and the ip and port are correct

https://smoo.it/#/host/router or https://smoo.it/#/host/vpn

Also no, but it's more safe to keep a run verified as others wouldn't be able to join you