has anyone ever gotten a menu during the black screen when loading a cutscene or exiting one? cause apparently i just did it by randomly mashing x when i was skipping cutscenes.

You mean the pause menu came up during a cutscene load, or the bottom screen "cutscene skip" yes/no options came up during the load?

both have happened to me. except everything was just black screens for the cutscene skip i wasn't really able to do much except a/b for the menu, i'm pretty sure i was able to move around and do stuff. of course, i had no idea what i was doing cause this was a black screen and i was lost in the menu. but for both cases, the screen stayed black until i exited whichever menu i was on.